I want to be Rich but also Feel Rich
Someone asked me, “What are you most afraid of in your life?”, Without thinking twice, I immediately replied, “ to be poor.”
Yes, money is a love-hate relationship for me based on my life experience. I myself have experienced difficulties because I had no money that had very far-reaching impacts, from decreased self-confidence, insecurity about life, to family problems that occurred due to the same problem. However, I’m also afraid of having too much money, for example a hedonistic lifestyle, being approached by other people just because of money, and even things that can kill me indirectly, such as threats because I’m too rich.
Money itself actually has a lot of impact based on the point of view you have. I started learning about money when I was little. When they were children, parents taught them to save pocket money in the piggy bank. The results were not much, but I had a very strong ambition to save money from a young age. There is no dream of buying anything, it’s just that I want to hold a lot of money. I want to have a savings account, and since I was small, I have had cash assets for my own emergency fund, which I got from this little allowance.
This has made me have a rather frugal lifestyle. Actually, my pocket money is not as much as other children who can afford heavy meals in the canteen. I don’t have the money for that actually. And because I have ambitions, I have no interest in buying it. I’m more focused on long term goals, for example to buy a cellphone with my own money. As a result, I kept the phone that I bougth for years because I learned it’s not easy to make money.
Yes, at that time I learned to look for financial security, and I held that value until I grew up.
The next challenge was when I went to college where I had to live alone and meet my own needs with very little money. At that time, my weekly money was not even enough for my needs, let alone for savings. I hack my money by eating only one meal a day in the afternoon, the rest I just buy side dishes in large quantities for lunch or just drink milk in the morning. Or as simple as joining a seminar just for rice boxes. At that time I was often sick and passed out due to lack of energy, at that time I was also hospitalized for the first time (and hopefully the last time) because of acid reflux.
I started studying finance very persistently, the way I read a lot of well-known financial books, took stock classes and met with gentlemen of stock activists, came to securities banks just to ask questions about stock theory, and sold a little bit online because at that time new online marketplace moving in my country. Everything I do to earn money, and save as much as possible. I really apply frugal living because I have a target asset that I have to collect with a certain timeline. It’s interesting to talk about it again, because it’s rare for kids my age to aim in that direction. I’ve been thinking about inflation and how to keep this asset at the same amount in the future. Starting from gold and stocks, I diversify all of their assets to maintain the integrity of the assets.
That was also the first time, I began to feel comfortable spending money to just try food at cafes, with a sense of regret that I had spent that much money with food that wasn’t that good.
But, life is not about making money and stashing it in your wallet. Life is not that simple. What I actually felt was a feeling of dissatisfaction and dissatisfaction, even though my bank’s nominal value continued to increase and increase.
Life is full of surprise, there must be a lot of new learning gained. I am also growing and understanding what rich really means.
If you want to feel rich, then you have to give.
Strange isn’t it?
Not by giving
Yes, I learned this new theory about finance and I feel I am much happier living life. I turned out to have a very big traumatic of poverty and finance. And slowly I started spending my money by giving it to strangers or just to myself, because before that I was too calculating and afraid to even spend 1 cent.
No matter how much money, it will not make you feel happy if you still have a greedy nature and don’t feel enough. Even the slightest amount of money will make you happy if you use it properly, especially to help other people. I’m a person who doesn’t believe in theory, and I put it to the test when I was traveling in Yogyakarta last January.
When you are in Yogyakarta, you will definitely be offered services to help you explore these tourist attractions and you can pay sincerely based on your satisfaction with the person’s services. I with the theoretical thinking that I have, I pay them with the maximum money that I have. And, I feel so much more relieved and happy, I can smile and say that, “the money has to be put to good use and shared with the right and needy people, no matter what you get in return,”
Turns out, what I was looking for was sincerity. A sincere feeling when you feel that what happened is definitely the best for us.
I’m grateful, I get new learning about this life. I feel much more sincere and grateful, and I started using money to be able to give as much as possible with the best version. Holding too many assets with excessive worry is not something good.
Life is too short to worry about something you have no complete control over. Your money is not your control, because there is a role of fortune in the way this world system works.
And is there anything unique found?
When you give, you are not only replaced with feelings of sincerity and happiness, but also your money will come with more friends.
It turns out that feeling financially secure is subjective, and you can get it when you give. You are happy when you can help others. That is the true definition of financial fortune. I’m not just talking about theory, but I’ve tried it. Apparently, what makes you happy is not nominal, because nominally there will be no satisfaction when you are still greedy and stingy. However, true financial happiness and a sense of wealth is when you have money, and you don’t have that feeling of belonging, you are sincere about what you have and you can give to others.
